By the time you get pregnant chances are you’ve pretty much figured sex out — what works for you, what doesn’t. But pregnancy sex is a whole different experience and can challenge you (and your partner) in strange ways. It can be weird and frustrating. (Did I just pee the bed or am I that wet?!) Or it can be freaking amazing. (Was that a triple orgasm? Where was that my whole life?) And it can alternate from day to day, or even minute to minute!

  1. It can be the best sex of your life. Once you get past feeling awful all the time, you may realize that not only is pregnancy sex possible, it’s even better than regular sex!
  2. Orgasms are twice as powerful. Think orgasms are fun? Wait until you have one during pregnancy!
  3. Or you may never want to have sex again. It’s totally normal, especially during the first few nauseating, exhaustion-filled months, to hate even the idea of having sex.
  4. You’ll need to get creative with positions. Your favorite positions before being pregnant might be your least favorite during pregnancy; they may hurt, or you can’t even think of doing them.
  5. Your baby’s movements may mess up your groove. Whether they throw off your concentration or freak your partner out (or both?), your baby’s kicks and rolls can really interrupt the flow of sex.
  6. An orgasm can trigger contractions. By your third trimester, you may already be experiencing some Braxton-Hicks contractions. These can be triggered by many things, including an orgasm.
  7. Sex can be a lot messier. Period sex ain’t got nothing on pregnancy sex! It’s normal to experience a lot of vaginal discharge, especially towards the end, as your mucus plug is loosening up, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t weird.

Good news if pregnancy has your hormones raging and your libido through the roof: It’s completely safe to have an orgasm during a low risk pregnancy. If your pregnancy is high risk and it’s not safe for you, your doctor should tell you. Still, it’s worth having that conversation. And if you feel embarrassed about asking, remember: OBs have heard it all. No topic should be off limits.

And the old folk wisdom that says that sex brings on labor? It’s just not supported. So whether you’re 8 weeks or 42 weeks, feel free to get busy with your partner — or yourself — and enjoy the O.