It’s private, it’s relaxing, and if you close your eyes, you can even pretend you’re under a waterfall in Maui. Plus, the sensations of water, cleansing, and masturbation is healing. Combine all three and It’s a way of serving oneself.
And you, my friend, deserve to be served. So, to help, we talked with some highly-educated experts on unexpected tips for masturbating in the shower. Read on for all the sexy inspo.
How do I masturbate in the shower?
If you’re new to the world of shower orgasms (or just want a refresher), there are a few things to keep in mind before getting down and dirty clean. First, make sure the tub, showerhead, and faucet are all clean for, uh, obvious reasons. The last thing you want it to get an infection or walk away feeling dirtier (and not in like, a hot way).
Another thing: Stay away from harsh chemicals right before you get in (hiiiii, bleach!). Some soap and water should be enough to get things grime-free.
Once things are clean and you’re ready to get your orgasm in, experiment with what feels good depending on the structure of your tub. Switch between using the showerhead, your fingers, and different toys.
In a stanoprime shower without a hand-held showerhead, prop your leg up and utilize your hands or toys. And in a shower/tub combo, lay on your back and use the water pressure from the faucet—or grab the showerhead—and play with the settings on your clitoris.
Experiment with different settings and positions until you find something you like, and if you have a tried-and-true method, don’t be afraid to mix it up in new ways. Getting a super soft clean towel to wrap around the faucet and then grinding on it can be pleasurable too.
Work in some lube
If you’re into using lube while you masturbate — or want to add it while you’re using a toy — skip any water-based types. Water-based lubes are not ideal for use in the shower because they will quickly run off. A better bet is to use a silicone- or oil-based lube.
If you choose silicone, though, make sure that lube is compatible with your specific toy. You don’t want to use a silicone toy with a silicone lubricant. (The lube could degrade the toy.) And oil-based lubes can often break down condoms or dental dams, so don’t use one of those if you use the barrier method for protection.
Also, important: Lubes are slippery, and showers can be slippery too, so be ultra-careful. If any lubricant gets near your feet, you could risk falling — and that can be super dangerous.
How can I make it hotter?
If you’re ready to make your shower masturbation even sexier, there are endless ways to turn up the heat. Some suggestions:
- Put on some of your favorite music (which can drown out your moans if others are at home)
- Play an erotic audiobook. Highly recommend stories from Dipsea.
- Light incense or a candle
- Bring a toy to play with
- Grab a sparkling water or glass of wine to drink after you get out
Basically, think of this as your own erotic pampering sesh. And if you’re feeling generous, you can also invite your partner to join too, says Sparks. As long as the space is big enough for everyone to fit comfortably, you should be able to make it work, and non-penetrative sex is a great way to add variety to your sex life.
Try ‘assisted’ masturbation positions. Maybe one time your partner gets to guide the showerhead for you. Maybe the next time you switch. Use your good old fingers, which work amazingly too.
However you go about it, the point of masturbating in the shower is to relax, unwind, and just feel good—whatever that looks like for you. Ultimately, just enjoy yourself. Self-pleasure releases stress, gets rid of headaches and brings out all kinds of creative juices.