When you first find out your husband is cheating on you, it feels like you’ve been stabbed in the heart. Every little thing you do matters, so you must act carefully, even if you feel devastated and helpless. No loving wife should ever have to suffer this pain. And you should not let the other woman win. Unfortunately, this is also when women make key mistakes that ruin the chances of fixing the relationship.
Make Your Feelings Clear To Him
Right now, you’re probably not sure what to say to your cheating husband. Many women worry over how to confront their husband, and can’t find the right words… But the solution is actually quite simple. The first step to winning your husband back from the other woman is to get clarity. Right now, we have to get rid of that feeling of suffocation and anxiety that’s been following you all the time. The reason you’re feeling that way is because you have been holding in your feelings.
Put Him In An Emotional Vacuum
The idea is simple. You are going to be emotionally unresponsive to him. This doesn’t mean ignoring him or pretending he’s not there. But you should not feed his emotional needs. Your husband will be stuck with the feelings of guilt and regret, and will try to relieve this by talking to you. However, now is not the time for this. He needs to reflect on his actions, so tell him “I don’t want to talk about this right now” or “We can talk about this later”. You’re going to do this for a couple of days. In the meantime, the emotional release you experienced in Step 1 should leave you feeling more peaceful.
Be His Wife, Not His Fling
After a couple of days, you will have to end the “vacuum” and come back to normal life. If you’ve done everything correctly, your husband will be acting a bit different. Now, you can respond to his emotional advances. Allow him to touch you again, and welcome his love. During all this, you have to bear in mind your unique gifts as a wife. You provide him with the comfort, security and closeness only a spouse can give. Focus on the depth of your feelings for each other.
Dealing With The Other Woman
In the next few weeks, you might still be worrying about the other woman in your husband’s life. You might have already confronted her about the affair. In any case, you have to be careful going forward when dealing with her. A lot of women make the mistake of blaming the other woman, or trying to make the other woman suffer. Ironically, this is when the other woman wins.
Your emotional health is your greatest resource. The more negativity you spend on her, the more emotions you waste. Instead, focus on your one goal: Winning your husband back and saving your marriage.
Be Patient And Do Not Give Up
Once the cheating has stopped, it’s time for the recovery phase. Like it or not, cheating usually happens when a marriage is already falling apart. Fixing this marriage is going to take a long time, even after the affair stops. The most important thing at this stage is patience and communication. Do not let any feelings get trapped inside you again. Always express them to your husband. Slowly, you and your husband will be able to enjoy your marriage once again, just like you did in the beginning.
How To “Lock In” Your Husband’s Devotion
As a married couple, you are probably used to hearing him say “I love you”. But words are just words. Does he even mean it anymore? True love is a feeling that cannot be faked. If he truly and honestly loved you again like he did at the start, there’s no way he will ever leave. So you have to bring that back as soon as possible.
Here’s the key:
If love is an emotion, you have to make him feel it from the inside. There are simple ways to target certain “emotional triggers” inside his head. These triggers are hardwired into the male mind, and bring back the intense feelings of young love using psychology.
The sad truth is: Most marriages are doomed to fail. This is what happens when you don’t understand each other. But once you learn the TRUTH about the way men think about long-term relationships, you will be able to “lock in” his devotion.
You have a choice:
Handle your marriage the smart way, win back the heart of the man you love, and have him run back to you and never let you go again… …Or see him leave you alone forever for the other woman as your marriage falls apart. So start using these techniques to bring back his love now, and see for yourself how quickly he comes back to you.